If you‘ve been to relationship or marriage counseling before, your experience might have gone something like this; You and your spouse nervously walk into the office, sit on opposite ends of the couch and start airing your grievances. Eventually things get heated and the therapist ends up as the referee in the same fight you’ve had a thousand times. Sound familiar?
When you begin imago therapy, you’ll notice that the focus is not on you or your partner, but on the space between you. Your relationship becomes the “client” in the counseling process. You and your partner are the experts on your relationship and your therapist will treat you as such.
Your Imago therapist will work along side of you, creating a safe space to grow into deeper connection with each other.
“The Latin word “imago”—meaning “image”—refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love.” What we find is that there is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. As an example, individuals frequently criticized as a child will likely be highly sensitive to their partner’s criticism. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship.
When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right mate.
Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples can learn to understand each other’s feelings and “childhood wounds” more empathically, allowing them to heal themselves and their relationships so they can move toward a more ‘Conscious Relationship‘“. www.HarvilleandHelen.com